On Seeing the Good

Being in a relationship is bringing out the best and the worst of me. Last week Chris and I were at my place with our respective take-out meals, sitting down to watch some of the latest shows on Hulu.

As I take a bite of my delicious chicken club wrap from Morning Due Café, I find a chunk of bone amongst the meat. My first reaction is “No way! How disgusting,” which of course I yell out for him to hear in the kitchen. I’m thinking, “I can’t believe I end up with a bone. It figures”.

To my complete and utter surprise, what is Chris’s first and immediate reaction? “Wow, it must be really fresh!”

Talk about a complete and unexpected response. My jaw drops with this comment and I feel once again like the ultimate critic put in my place.

For those of us less optimistic than Chris, why is it so hard to see the good in things?

I wish I knew the answer to this question, but I can tell you that I continue to learn about acceptance and appreciation from being with this man who has an innate ability to see both the good in people and in things.

My frog parts were definitely brought to the surface with this example. Consider this experiment: in the next week, when something little (or seemingly little) happens that you normally perceive as negative or an annoyance, notice your reaction. Then, see if you can turn it around by choosing a different response. A do-over, if you will.

In the case of my chicken bone, maybe next time I try something like “Wow, I am so lucky to have such fresh meat on my sandwich”, or perhaps a more realistic baby-step would be: “thank God I found it before putting it in my mouth.”



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