Wise choice!

Here's a story from one of our readers who made a wise choice. Way to go! 

I find a profile of a man who had viewed my own profile first. I thought, "He's cute and I love his profile," so we email. Then we chat online. Then we text. All is going well...it's exciting to have communication with a man again after so long. I try to stay as guarded as I can, but I can't help feeling giddy. Everything is grand.

And then we talk on the phone.
First off, I can hardly understand what he's saying. It's a 50-minute "conversation" yet I speak for maybe 5 minutes...total. He tells me that he's taken some medication that makes him really loopy and that he feels drugged. Then, he proceeds to say, "I'm going to tell you something that I only tell women after 3 or 4 dates. I have Bipolar I Disorder." Now, as someone who has Bipolar II Disorder herself, I understand how it is and that it takes courage to tell someone that. Yet my heart sinks because I know that sick + sick = sicker.
But here's the great part--something that I attribute to you, Karen, from when I've heard you speak--I know in my heart that this could never work. And instead of investing any time and energy into the "relationship" I tell him, "You know, with both of us having Bipolar, there is no way that this would work out. If we're both up at the same time or down at the same time, it could be really destructive." He said, "I understand."
In the past, I would have thought, "Hey, we both have the same illness! We can understand each other!" or "Well, I've never dated someone with Bipolar I before; let's see what happens." Instead, I overcame the fear I had of "rejecting" him and I stood up for what I knew my heart was telling me. So I let this frog go. And hopefully it will bring me a little closer to my prince, because after all, through this process I'm hoping to learn more and more how to be true to myself.


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