Meet Karen

Karen Habegger

Karen's Story

Let's start with some basics. I was single for 45 years, and JUST got married on July 19, 2013. Still hard for me to believe! I was in search of Mr. Right for most of my life. The hopeless romantic. I had been dreaming about finding “The One" ever since I was a little girl.

To say I was looking for a long time is a drastic understatement.

My journey of the heart began after a breakup that resulted in me being forced to find myself. I took a hard look at the choices I was making and my many mistakes. What was I doing wrong?

I was really good at living for others. Especially men. I lost myself in the process. It was hard to remember who I was anymore. Questions surfaced. Am I good enough? Will people really like me if they knew the real me? Who is the real me? Why am I so desperate for a man's attention?

Being a personal growth nut, I found some great resources and went to town. Little did I know that all this childhood junk would surface and I'd have to face grieving my losses. Do you know what it's like to realize you've spent 40 years of your life "keeping your chin up", hardly recognizing the emptiness because you're so busy trying to be positive? Sometimes you have to face it. The yucky stuff. Those incredibly painful places that we're so good at hiding from. 

What I learned is that reality is my friend. It's the fantasy of the “knight in shining armor" that will kill you. Grieving that fantasy has opened up a world of space for new things.

My "coming out" party was in 2008, when I tried speed dating for the first time. I had HAD it with dating sites and was finally ready to bite the bullet and do this thing I had heard about forever, but was too terrified to try. Turns out I LOVED it. The "coming out" part is that I left believing I actually am attractive and deserving of a good man. Though I met a few good men, nothing lasted.

I ended up online again, and had some crazy experiences. Namely, an engagement proposal before the first date, an ex-con, and a whirlwind romance with a passenger on the plane home from India.

Through all of this, I realized the relationship I most neglected was with myself.

Over time, I discovered I actually am an amazing human being. Imagine that! I want that for you, too! I wish it hadn't taken me so long to realize and believe that. The pain of my past served the purpose of opening the door to my future.

I was inspired to start Kissing Frogs Project to help those of us who simply need to discover who we are, define ourselves (versus letting others do it), and walk in the freedom of being real.

It's time to bring your authentic self to the world. The REAL you! Stop hiding! You are unique. You matter. You have something to offer.

Be yourself. Because everyone else is taken anyway. And guess what? When you are the real you, you display the greatest version of yourself, and when you do that, you'll naturally attract the things and people that you really want! (You just have to be willing to let the frogs go in the meantime)

When I wrote my first draft of this on July 18, 2011, I wrote: “I am proud to say that I am accepting and at peace with my current reality (of still looking), yet with a sense of peace and trust that all will work out in its due time. It has been a LONG time coming."

Things have shifted for me. I'm in a great relationship now. Focusing on and being true to myself led me to attract a relationship that honors who I am. I can just be me. That's what it's all about. That's my wish for each of you. I realize now that when I finally let go of striving and grasping for the guy, that's when it happened.

It's a process that will take time, but from my experience, it works. I want you to experience change, get results, and most importantly, feel free.

What I've lacked in success in the dating world, thankfully I make up for in the business world. My professional life has flourished. From human resources manager to communications expert, I have no problem owning my gifts and skills in the workplace. Funny how that is. I couldn't seem to get results that stuck in my dating life, but my professional confidence has always been strong and sticks long in the eyes of people who either give me a paycheck or pay my consultant fees.

As a kid, adults used to comment on my confidence and that it would take me far. I recall selling Mary Kay cosmetics when I was 18 years old and making great money doing it. What I remember most from our training was “fake it till you make it." If you act confidently, you will come across that way and people will believe you. Coupled with my dad's confidence in his abilities to do just about anything, I grew up with a very strong sense of self in the “performance" world.

Speaking has always come naturally to me, and I love it. People say I have a likable, authentic and conversational style. I've always felt comfortable being myself at work. It's the personal life with men that needed work.

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